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Posted 28 February 2005 - 08:49 PM
Hi Majj: So sorry you lost three of your treasured babies...I know you still cry for them as I would....If you don't mind telling us, what did happen to your babies....
Glad you have some more little fids....
My heartfelt sympathy to you....
Julie & Harley
Glad you have some more little fids....
My heartfelt sympathy to you....
Julie & Harley
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Posted 01 March 2005 - 08:37 AM
This is a story I have written on Word ..it also has Photo`s imbedded in it but I couldn`t up load the Word document here so this is all I could do (copy and paste no piccy`s) How I became A fid lover The Joys and Sorrows....(long)[
The sorrow of loss
I never knew how much love a bird could bring until my eldest son Richard. 25 yrs, who had been living in Darwin, returned home for Xmas 1999. Along with him came an 8 month old hand reared male King parrot who he had named 'Strawberry Jam'. Little did we know that we were to become Strawberry Jams permanent family, when my son returned to the Northern Territory leaving the parrot with us. Finding Strawberry Jam quite a mouthful we decided to call him 'Jam'.
What a gentle trusting beautiful companion he became to all the family, taking a very special liking to our youngest son David 19yrs. Jam eventually started to talk "what are you doing". " I love you " "Pretty boy" or "Where's David? So very cute to witness.
He would call every morning from downstairs to David who was still in bed, and given the chance he would fly upstairs and sit outside David's bedroom door chatting and laughing until David appeared. David plays the piano and Jam loved music. He would walk around on top of the piano bopping and chatting away to the tunes, he was a real ham and a goose that made us laugh and enjoyed being with us.
By now we had become totally 'Bird-Crazy People' and decided Jam would like company. Really, we wanted to add another bird to our flock, we did not want a mate for Jam, just a companion bird to fly around and interact with.
November 2000,enter Sunny a 3 month old hand reared Sun Conure. After the mandatory month separation and vet check, we let them fly around together and they were great flying buddies. This friendship was to last only 6 months, as in April, even though Jam was acting and looking well, he had passed a lot of blood one evening in his droppings (actually it was just a dropping of completely bright red blood) it scared the daylights out of us all, we rang the vet and he said to just watch and contact him if anything further happened …all was well for about 6 weeks when it happened again this time we were off for a complete examination. Finding nothing amiss with the usual blood tests on his droppings and a normal Xray, the vet suggested further investigation with the feeding of some liquid to show up the intestines under another xray. We consented but something went horribly wrong. Jam died whilst undergoing the procedure, and he never recovered from the anaesthetic. We were all devastated, but most of all David. How could someone hurt so much over a bird? Easy to answer. To us he had become more than just a bird, he was part of our family and he had made us his flock. He loved and trusted us completely and we felt so responsible for what happened even though it had been out of our control. Our hearts were broken and he was on our mind for months. The years have past now and we miss him so much. We remember him and his funny ways everyday. Poor Sunny missing Jam so much, was lost also and he would call and look for him all over the house He was terribly agitated and cranky and would only settle down when we would hold a picture of Jam up for him to see, he would kiss and head bob - it was so sad….. Heartbreaking really to watch him.
We ended up getting a little 8 week old Quaker Parrot for a companion to ease the hurt for both Sunny and ourselves We named the little fellow MINTY, he was also a loving fid. Both birds loved each other but still remained tame and close to us their human family. Minty also took to David and this helped him cope with his loss of his beloved Jam…
After having a story in memory to Jam printed in a magazine a breeder located only a few hours away contacted us. The breeder had a baby male King Parrot (December) …What could we say? . Along came JJ (Jam Junior) in December 2001…our flock was complete all 3 fids got along and it was bliss.
The fates were to be cruel to us once more, for 12 months later in April 2002, Minty died quite unexpectedly , Under aesthetic once again with an uncontrollable bleed out the vet was helpless to stop the blood loss. An autopsy on Minty showed he had some congenital defects with only about 5% of his liver working … I could not believe how we had lost 2 birds so suddenly and we will never get over losing either one of them a piece of our hearts went with them .I have now learned so much more about birds in the past 2 years, two years too late, but Jam and Minty gave us so much in their short time on earth we will love them in out hearts forever.
Two Happy years were to follow with JJ and Sunny becoming good mates , But Sunny grieved the loss of his snuggle bunny Minty so we Got our little blue Quaker , named Buddy as he was to be a friend for Sunny and they are truly good mates now snuggling and sleeping together in a nesting box their two big cages pushed together with a entry for them to jump in and out of each others cage …So now we had our three birds again and felt this time our family would grow and love together for many years Not so…JJ left us just 6 months later he was the most beautiful natured bird , the Species are a non aggressive bird and although not a touch me bird loved being with people he adored visitors flying to them with Hello !!! “ I love you” and “what are you doing “??? As his first 3 questions ..He would then proceed to show off in the most adorable way , everyone loved him ..Unfortunately JJ died of a secondary upper respiratory fungal infection after over coming metal poisoning through hospitalisation daily injections and crop feeding of large amounts of peanut butter to help drag all remaining bits of metal from his little body , unfortunately this illness and medications left his body too weak to keep fighting the secondary infection , he (along with I and our vet) fought a long battle lasting 3 months , JJ went through numerous hospital stays daily medications , nasal flushes Nebulization treatments , I would have him home for a week or two them back it was the most emotionally draining experience I have ever been through , 3 months my every waking hour was with JJ physically and in my every thought , it was if all life had stoped and JJ was all I could focus on, many nights I though he would not be with us in the morning so I would sleep on the lounge in the fids room just watching him in his cage in case he fell I didn`t want him to be alone, through all his illness and hospitalisation JJ never once bit the vet or myself even though he was handled and medicated frequently during his illness .. The last 4 days JJ spent in hospital in intensive care with a nebulizer pumping medication into his little hospital room , I was getting a cage set up near my bed as we had a nebulizer from my son who was asthmatic when young and was planning on bringing JJ home to be near us as I know he preferred his home to hospital, Our vet called early the morning I was to collect him , JJ was worsening by the hour we needed to get in there asap…45min drive accompanied by Joe and David took us to the saddest day of my life , we had a private room and sat cuddling JJ , holding him talking and telling him he didn`t need to struggle any more it was time to go ..I asked Mark our vet if I could hold him while he went to sleep , he was suffering and struggling so hard to breath , I held his now wasted body while Mark slipped the mask over his beautiful head and he went to sleep with all of his human family with him Mark then gave him an injection to stop his heart , 3 quick breaths and JJ was gone , my world ended , all 4 of us Mark Joe, David and myself cried for the bird that was loved by all that knew him , we wrapped his tiny warm body in a beautiful soft new bunny rug I stopped and bought on the way to the vet as I knew it was to be our last good bye , I have that bunny rug in my bedroom draw and for over a month I cuddled it every night as I slept it still smelt of my boy and it held the many tears I cried, its still in my draw and occasionally I hold it close to me as I drift of to sleep and still I weep , part of my heart carries JJ in it and that part is forever sad at his loss I never knew how much I could love a feathered companion , I still cry when I remember the struggle he had those last 3 months …
Sunny and Buddy are sweeties and give me love and pleasure , I love them dearly but JJ was special , you see he had chosen me for his love and no other bird had , I was their Mum yes and they loved me but they had all chosen David for their love , only JJ was truly mine …
The sorrow of loss
I never knew how much love a bird could bring until my eldest son Richard. 25 yrs, who had been living in Darwin, returned home for Xmas 1999. Along with him came an 8 month old hand reared male King parrot who he had named 'Strawberry Jam'. Little did we know that we were to become Strawberry Jams permanent family, when my son returned to the Northern Territory leaving the parrot with us. Finding Strawberry Jam quite a mouthful we decided to call him 'Jam'.
What a gentle trusting beautiful companion he became to all the family, taking a very special liking to our youngest son David 19yrs. Jam eventually started to talk "what are you doing". " I love you " "Pretty boy" or "Where's David? So very cute to witness.
He would call every morning from downstairs to David who was still in bed, and given the chance he would fly upstairs and sit outside David's bedroom door chatting and laughing until David appeared. David plays the piano and Jam loved music. He would walk around on top of the piano bopping and chatting away to the tunes, he was a real ham and a goose that made us laugh and enjoyed being with us.
By now we had become totally 'Bird-Crazy People' and decided Jam would like company. Really, we wanted to add another bird to our flock, we did not want a mate for Jam, just a companion bird to fly around and interact with.
November 2000,enter Sunny a 3 month old hand reared Sun Conure. After the mandatory month separation and vet check, we let them fly around together and they were great flying buddies. This friendship was to last only 6 months, as in April, even though Jam was acting and looking well, he had passed a lot of blood one evening in his droppings (actually it was just a dropping of completely bright red blood) it scared the daylights out of us all, we rang the vet and he said to just watch and contact him if anything further happened …all was well for about 6 weeks when it happened again this time we were off for a complete examination. Finding nothing amiss with the usual blood tests on his droppings and a normal Xray, the vet suggested further investigation with the feeding of some liquid to show up the intestines under another xray. We consented but something went horribly wrong. Jam died whilst undergoing the procedure, and he never recovered from the anaesthetic. We were all devastated, but most of all David. How could someone hurt so much over a bird? Easy to answer. To us he had become more than just a bird, he was part of our family and he had made us his flock. He loved and trusted us completely and we felt so responsible for what happened even though it had been out of our control. Our hearts were broken and he was on our mind for months. The years have past now and we miss him so much. We remember him and his funny ways everyday. Poor Sunny missing Jam so much, was lost also and he would call and look for him all over the house He was terribly agitated and cranky and would only settle down when we would hold a picture of Jam up for him to see, he would kiss and head bob - it was so sad….. Heartbreaking really to watch him.
We ended up getting a little 8 week old Quaker Parrot for a companion to ease the hurt for both Sunny and ourselves We named the little fellow MINTY, he was also a loving fid. Both birds loved each other but still remained tame and close to us their human family. Minty also took to David and this helped him cope with his loss of his beloved Jam…
After having a story in memory to Jam printed in a magazine a breeder located only a few hours away contacted us. The breeder had a baby male King Parrot (December) …What could we say? . Along came JJ (Jam Junior) in December 2001…our flock was complete all 3 fids got along and it was bliss.
The fates were to be cruel to us once more, for 12 months later in April 2002, Minty died quite unexpectedly , Under aesthetic once again with an uncontrollable bleed out the vet was helpless to stop the blood loss. An autopsy on Minty showed he had some congenital defects with only about 5% of his liver working … I could not believe how we had lost 2 birds so suddenly and we will never get over losing either one of them a piece of our hearts went with them .I have now learned so much more about birds in the past 2 years, two years too late, but Jam and Minty gave us so much in their short time on earth we will love them in out hearts forever.
Two Happy years were to follow with JJ and Sunny becoming good mates , But Sunny grieved the loss of his snuggle bunny Minty so we Got our little blue Quaker , named Buddy as he was to be a friend for Sunny and they are truly good mates now snuggling and sleeping together in a nesting box their two big cages pushed together with a entry for them to jump in and out of each others cage …So now we had our three birds again and felt this time our family would grow and love together for many years Not so…JJ left us just 6 months later he was the most beautiful natured bird , the Species are a non aggressive bird and although not a touch me bird loved being with people he adored visitors flying to them with Hello !!! “ I love you” and “what are you doing “??? As his first 3 questions ..He would then proceed to show off in the most adorable way , everyone loved him ..Unfortunately JJ died of a secondary upper respiratory fungal infection after over coming metal poisoning through hospitalisation daily injections and crop feeding of large amounts of peanut butter to help drag all remaining bits of metal from his little body , unfortunately this illness and medications left his body too weak to keep fighting the secondary infection , he (along with I and our vet) fought a long battle lasting 3 months , JJ went through numerous hospital stays daily medications , nasal flushes Nebulization treatments , I would have him home for a week or two them back it was the most emotionally draining experience I have ever been through , 3 months my every waking hour was with JJ physically and in my every thought , it was if all life had stoped and JJ was all I could focus on, many nights I though he would not be with us in the morning so I would sleep on the lounge in the fids room just watching him in his cage in case he fell I didn`t want him to be alone, through all his illness and hospitalisation JJ never once bit the vet or myself even though he was handled and medicated frequently during his illness .. The last 4 days JJ spent in hospital in intensive care with a nebulizer pumping medication into his little hospital room , I was getting a cage set up near my bed as we had a nebulizer from my son who was asthmatic when young and was planning on bringing JJ home to be near us as I know he preferred his home to hospital, Our vet called early the morning I was to collect him , JJ was worsening by the hour we needed to get in there asap…45min drive accompanied by Joe and David took us to the saddest day of my life , we had a private room and sat cuddling JJ , holding him talking and telling him he didn`t need to struggle any more it was time to go ..I asked Mark our vet if I could hold him while he went to sleep , he was suffering and struggling so hard to breath , I held his now wasted body while Mark slipped the mask over his beautiful head and he went to sleep with all of his human family with him Mark then gave him an injection to stop his heart , 3 quick breaths and JJ was gone , my world ended , all 4 of us Mark Joe, David and myself cried for the bird that was loved by all that knew him , we wrapped his tiny warm body in a beautiful soft new bunny rug I stopped and bought on the way to the vet as I knew it was to be our last good bye , I have that bunny rug in my bedroom draw and for over a month I cuddled it every night as I slept it still smelt of my boy and it held the many tears I cried, its still in my draw and occasionally I hold it close to me as I drift of to sleep and still I weep , part of my heart carries JJ in it and that part is forever sad at his loss I never knew how much I could love a feathered companion , I still cry when I remember the struggle he had those last 3 months …
Sunny and Buddy are sweeties and give me love and pleasure , I love them dearly but JJ was special , you see he had chosen me for his love and no other bird had , I was their Mum yes and they loved me but they had all chosen David for their love , only JJ was truly mine …
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Posted 02 March 2005 - 01:31 PM
Majj,
What a sad and beautiful story. As i sat here reading it i began to cry. My sweetie Maui sitting on my shoulder began to whimper and try to remove the tears from my cheeks. I can not even begin to imagine my life without him. I truly believe that we who are bird parronts are chosen people and it is beyond my imagination that there are actually people who dont understand the bond we have with them.
Thank you for reminding me of how precious and short our time is with these special angels.
What a sad and beautiful story. As i sat here reading it i began to cry. My sweetie Maui sitting on my shoulder began to whimper and try to remove the tears from my cheeks. I can not even begin to imagine my life without him. I truly believe that we who are bird parronts are chosen people and it is beyond my imagination that there are actually people who dont understand the bond we have with them.
Thank you for reminding me of how precious and short our time is with these special angels.
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Posted 02 March 2005 - 08:18 PM
Thankyou...
I will never stop talking about JJ I know some people are different but everyday something happens or we (family ) do something or have something to eat that JJ would love and I have to say JJ would be doing this or saying that or remember when JJ did this or that ..It still feels like it was only yesterday when he was here..
Everyone is different in how they handle things some prefering not to talk about their losses but I seem to need to talk and remember I don`t ever want to forget , any of my boys especially my JJ..
I will never stop talking about JJ I know some people are different but everyday something happens or we (family ) do something or have something to eat that JJ would love and I have to say JJ would be doing this or saying that or remember when JJ did this or that ..It still feels like it was only yesterday when he was here..
Everyone is different in how they handle things some prefering not to talk about their losses but I seem to need to talk and remember I don`t ever want to forget , any of my boys especially my JJ..
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Posted 02 March 2005 - 08:28 PM
I am really glad you feel comfortable talking about your JJ and keeping his memory alive. I think it is a good thing and something maybe my Mom should have done after my Dad's death rather then forbiding it be brought up again. It would have gone a long way in our healing if we had dealt with it and spoke of it rather then just pushed it out of our minds. I think you have chosen the more healthy way to deal with death / loss. I am grateful for you sharing your JJ with us.
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Posted 02 March 2005 - 09:16 PM
Majj: Now maybe I can collect my thoughts and get back to acknowledge your sweet but sad story of your little fids... I can relate with you of what you are feeling.
Personally, I always had a dog in my life, but the last time I ended up with three.
Golden Retrievers. Got Barnee (father) then later Penni (mother) and they had 10 babies.. I kept one of the pups I called Andee. I raised them all from pups. Well a sad day came for me with Penni. She had gotten sick and was on the decline for several weeks. Nothing could be done for her. She was only 7 when I reluctantly had to put her down. Barnee and Andee stayed with me until Barnee was 13 years old. He was sick for a year (won't go into details) and then Andee developed cancer. Both in bad shape and I had to reluctantly put them down and I did, both at the same time. It just about killed me. I left the house while the vet came out to take care of everything. My son and sister were here to help out. I jumped in my car and left and screamed all the way going, where--I didn't know, just driving...When I came home, of course my babies were buried in the back yard and I came through the front door and ran to their beds and felled down. I don't know how long I was there....That has been two years now. I still miss them, and tell them nite nite every night..
I said then I would never have me another dog..And now the rest of the story, I ended up with a little green chicken, Harley, lol.....hoping he out lives me....He is so smart and calls my son, poppa. When he sees him coming home from work or from riding the motorcycle, he says "here come poppa".....
So I am kinda like you, Marion, it helps me to talk about it also....
But hopefully we are going to have a wonderful long time with our new pets.
Julie & Harley
Personally, I always had a dog in my life, but the last time I ended up with three.
Golden Retrievers. Got Barnee (father) then later Penni (mother) and they had 10 babies.. I kept one of the pups I called Andee. I raised them all from pups. Well a sad day came for me with Penni. She had gotten sick and was on the decline for several weeks. Nothing could be done for her. She was only 7 when I reluctantly had to put her down. Barnee and Andee stayed with me until Barnee was 13 years old. He was sick for a year (won't go into details) and then Andee developed cancer. Both in bad shape and I had to reluctantly put them down and I did, both at the same time. It just about killed me. I left the house while the vet came out to take care of everything. My son and sister were here to help out. I jumped in my car and left and screamed all the way going, where--I didn't know, just driving...When I came home, of course my babies were buried in the back yard and I came through the front door and ran to their beds and felled down. I don't know how long I was there....That has been two years now. I still miss them, and tell them nite nite every night..
I said then I would never have me another dog..And now the rest of the story, I ended up with a little green chicken, Harley, lol.....hoping he out lives me....He is so smart and calls my son, poppa. When he sees him coming home from work or from riding the motorcycle, he says "here come poppa".....
So I am kinda like you, Marion, it helps me to talk about it also....
But hopefully we are going to have a wonderful long time with our new pets.
Julie & Harley
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Posted 03 March 2005 - 04:39 PM
Cheryl I am hoping expressing my feelings and thought will help also it seems I can`t get past it right now I have good days and bad , Thankyou for your kind words...
Julie I understand how devastaed you must have been and how even now there is a ache in your heart , I am so sorry that anyone has to go through the loss of a loved critter they depend so much on us humans its hard not to feel guilty or upset whe we have to make these decisions...Sending you hugs I do understand..
I was thinking while in bed unable to sleep thismorning , Why JJ`s death has affected me more than Jam and Minty`s , because I loved them no less ..I think it was because Jam and Minty past so quickly and unexpected I grieved but remember all the fun times they looked perfectly healthy when they past , I was able to go on and get more fids once the sadness had lifted .. but with JJ he was so sick and we fought so hard (The vet Myself and JJ) for what seemed an eternity those last 3 months haunt me I do remember the good happy times but those last days are etched into my mind so much so I still don`t feel I could get another fid for the fear of another such loss..I am lucky I have my 2 boys(Sunny and Buddy) so I don`t feel the need to have another featherd baby right now ...
I woke very early and unable to sleep am here its getting near to breaky time now (7.30am) haven`t heared the boys yet but soon..So I`ll say bye and chat later
Julie I understand how devastaed you must have been and how even now there is a ache in your heart , I am so sorry that anyone has to go through the loss of a loved critter they depend so much on us humans its hard not to feel guilty or upset whe we have to make these decisions...Sending you hugs I do understand..
I was thinking while in bed unable to sleep thismorning , Why JJ`s death has affected me more than Jam and Minty`s , because I loved them no less ..I think it was because Jam and Minty past so quickly and unexpected I grieved but remember all the fun times they looked perfectly healthy when they past , I was able to go on and get more fids once the sadness had lifted .. but with JJ he was so sick and we fought so hard (The vet Myself and JJ) for what seemed an eternity those last 3 months haunt me I do remember the good happy times but those last days are etched into my mind so much so I still don`t feel I could get another fid for the fear of another such loss..I am lucky I have my 2 boys(Sunny and Buddy) so I don`t feel the need to have another featherd baby right now ...
I woke very early and unable to sleep am here its getting near to breaky time now (7.30am) haven`t heared the boys yet but soon..So I`ll say bye and chat later
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Posted 08 March 2005 - 02:49 PM
Majj,
How sad.
My eyes are full of tears after reading that and my heart feels so heavy. After reading that it reminds me of Billy the LSC I had to let go. I got him from a friend who ended up in a Wheel chair after an RTA and couldn't cope with him anymore. I had him for 3 months, but for my husband and my son who was 8 at the time it was 3 months of hell. Billy would lauch himself at Steve (my hubby) and Liam (my son) whenever they came in the room and would bite them or hit them with his wings, scream at them for no apparent reason and depite the problems he was causing I couldn't help but love him. He would cuddle upto me, he would dance with me he followed me round the house but sadly due to the other problems he had to go. I made a rash decision and sold him to a guy who had an aviary, I git there showed him off to the shop owner, put him in his cage, said my goodbye's and walked out of the shop heartbroken and drove 2 hrs back home(how I got home in 1 peice I don't know) I cried for the rest of the evening, I cried all through the night. Couldn't sleep cos everytime I closed my eyes I saw Billy sat in this cage on his own in a large shop surrounded by strange Birds, saying 'Night,Night then.' The next day I still couldn't stop crying and Steve couldn't take anymore of seeing me like this. He made me phone the shop and tell them I was coming to buy Billy back (they were very good about it let me buy him back for what they had given me for him, plus a couple of beers). Then he made me phone my Mum and ask her if should would adopt Billy while we found him somewhere else to go. Billy hated be for at least a day but then we were best of buds again. I vistied him everyday at my Mums for playtime, I think being there did him good. You see I decided Billy was a man hater, but being at my Mum and Dad's meant he had to get used to my Dad who wouldn't alow Billy to be the master of him despite various war wounds that my Dad still has to this day, I think Billy learned a good lesson from this, in that is that not all men are bad. Billy now lives with young man who had handreared his own African Grey and had been after a LSC for a while when he came across my add, he came to see Billy and fell in love with him, I delivered Billy to his new home and though I think of him often I have coped with having to give him up.
I know this isn't quite the same as losing a loved bird to the golden room at the end of the rainbow but your story pulled the exact same heart strings as selling Billy to that shop. My heart goes out to you and David and I hope your birds remain healthy and well for years to come. Losing a bird has got to come in the same league as losing a child, partner or any other pet.
Best Wishes
Annette
PS I still feel bad for what I put Billy through.
How sad.
My eyes are full of tears after reading that and my heart feels so heavy. After reading that it reminds me of Billy the LSC I had to let go. I got him from a friend who ended up in a Wheel chair after an RTA and couldn't cope with him anymore. I had him for 3 months, but for my husband and my son who was 8 at the time it was 3 months of hell. Billy would lauch himself at Steve (my hubby) and Liam (my son) whenever they came in the room and would bite them or hit them with his wings, scream at them for no apparent reason and depite the problems he was causing I couldn't help but love him. He would cuddle upto me, he would dance with me he followed me round the house but sadly due to the other problems he had to go. I made a rash decision and sold him to a guy who had an aviary, I git there showed him off to the shop owner, put him in his cage, said my goodbye's and walked out of the shop heartbroken and drove 2 hrs back home(how I got home in 1 peice I don't know) I cried for the rest of the evening, I cried all through the night. Couldn't sleep cos everytime I closed my eyes I saw Billy sat in this cage on his own in a large shop surrounded by strange Birds, saying 'Night,Night then.' The next day I still couldn't stop crying and Steve couldn't take anymore of seeing me like this. He made me phone the shop and tell them I was coming to buy Billy back (they were very good about it let me buy him back for what they had given me for him, plus a couple of beers). Then he made me phone my Mum and ask her if should would adopt Billy while we found him somewhere else to go. Billy hated be for at least a day but then we were best of buds again. I vistied him everyday at my Mums for playtime, I think being there did him good. You see I decided Billy was a man hater, but being at my Mum and Dad's meant he had to get used to my Dad who wouldn't alow Billy to be the master of him despite various war wounds that my Dad still has to this day, I think Billy learned a good lesson from this, in that is that not all men are bad. Billy now lives with young man who had handreared his own African Grey and had been after a LSC for a while when he came across my add, he came to see Billy and fell in love with him, I delivered Billy to his new home and though I think of him often I have coped with having to give him up.
I know this isn't quite the same as losing a loved bird to the golden room at the end of the rainbow but your story pulled the exact same heart strings as selling Billy to that shop. My heart goes out to you and David and I hope your birds remain healthy and well for years to come. Losing a bird has got to come in the same league as losing a child, partner or any other pet.
Best Wishes
Annette
PS I still feel bad for what I put Billy through.
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Posted 10 March 2005 - 08:25 AM
Awww I just spotted this message , and I too can feel for what you went through ..I think I am just getting softer as I grow older as I cry everyones sad stories I just feel their anguish as if it were my own...
Do you ever get to see Billy now or know that he is doing o.k ...
I am so glad you perservered and got Billy into behaving for men I bet he is a sweet bird now , wasnt your dad a real treasure to put up with a stubbourn fid ...You shouldn`t feel bad as you gave Billy a chance at a great life I bet he is one happy guy now...sending you hugs ..
I think all us fid lovers here are big softies when it comes to our kids and critters too...
Do you ever get to see Billy now or know that he is doing o.k ...
I am so glad you perservered and got Billy into behaving for men I bet he is a sweet bird now , wasnt your dad a real treasure to put up with a stubbourn fid ...You shouldn`t feel bad as you gave Billy a chance at a great life I bet he is one happy guy now...sending you hugs ..
I think all us fid lovers here are big softies when it comes to our kids and critters too...
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Posted 17 March 2005 - 12:00 AM
Majj,
I am just now reading your post about your fids...It struck my heart strings, as I know exactly what you meant about fighting with JJ to live..Joy had been sick since last July but REALLY sick for the last 3 months...When she was dying, I was sobbing and each time she heard me sob, she raised herself up and tried to keep fighting, but when I told her it was ok to go to Jesus..she breathed her last breath and lowered her head to my chest and gave it up...Your story was so sad and so much like Joy.....I think about her every day and remember how sweet she was...there will never be another Joy...
I pray that your pain will ease more and more every day...
love,
Rebecca
I am just now reading your post about your fids...It struck my heart strings, as I know exactly what you meant about fighting with JJ to live..Joy had been sick since last July but REALLY sick for the last 3 months...When she was dying, I was sobbing and each time she heard me sob, she raised herself up and tried to keep fighting, but when I told her it was ok to go to Jesus..she breathed her last breath and lowered her head to my chest and gave it up...Your story was so sad and so much like Joy.....I think about her every day and remember how sweet she was...there will never be another Joy...
I pray that your pain will ease more and more every day...
love,
Rebecca
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Posted 17 March 2005 - 12:47 AM
Oh Majj...i just read about your Sweet JJ and your other precious baby fids, that you have loss and my heart goes out to you. I understand every word that you wrote and also understand what it is like to love a pet companion so very deeply. There is truely nothing like it. I have also experienced being forced to euthanize a life that is a child to you. There is nothing more difficult and the only strength I can find in it, is that it will never get any harder than that time...with the 1st true love of your life. I know that surrounding ourselves with these Precious God's Creatures most likely means that we will suffer pain and loss...I sometimes ask myself, "what am I doing"...but then I know in my heart and soul that the fullness and meaning they each bring to my life and I to theirs, is worth the possible and most likely pain of loosing them. Their existance in our lives touches this world in ways that are unexplainable with words.
You have my deepest sympathy. I am so thankful that you have choosen to take the risk of loving again. It is worth every minute that we may have together.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.
Bless your heart and your babies....and you're right...we will meet our babies that have gone on before us some glorious day...
Hugs to you and Sunny and Buddy,
Twyla and Olivia too...
You have my deepest sympathy. I am so thankful that you have choosen to take the risk of loving again. It is worth every minute that we may have together.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.
Bless your heart and your babies....and you're right...we will meet our babies that have gone on before us some glorious day...
Hugs to you and Sunny and Buddy,
Twyla and Olivia too...
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Posted 22 September 2005 - 11:23 PM
I cannot believe its been a year (24th Sept 05) and its taken me till now to be able to think and talk about JJ without breaking down.....
