[Siobhan]

The first day we got Clyde, he sat happily on my shoulder and head or my husband's. Either of us was fine. He'd been outside on his own for a while -- we don't know how long -- so he was just glad to be inside with regular meals and people to take care of him.

Then I put my hands in his new cage to install the new toys and fill his water and food dishes and he tagged me thoroughly. After that, he only wanted my husband. This went on for a week or more. To make Clyde like me again, Hubby backed off and made Clyde wait until I got home at night to get out of his cage, so he'd be so glad to get some attention that he'd accept it from me. That worked, but too well. Now, except for rare occasions, he won't accept Hubby anymore. Now and again, he'll consent to sit on his shoulder but he's just as likely to bite him. Even when I'm gone to work and Hubby tries to get him out to play with him, he's more inclined to bite and squawk than anything, but I come home and open up his cage and he hops right on my finger and onto my shoulder and is (usually ) sweet as pie. I know they tend to be one-person birds, but other folks on this board talk about their birds being willing to bond with the rest of the family, too. Do I have to back off now so he'll accept Hubby again?

[Majj]

They are funny little things ....My sunny changes his love every now and then but still accepts all of the family (he just decideds to LOVE one as his favorite for a while..lol..). Yep I would just get Hubby giving him treats and spending a bit more time with him , its important they accept all of the family (as flock members) even if they love one more as long as they accept the other and don`t bond so close to one that they view them as a mate the trick is to all be Flock members not a mate , this can cause frustration and bad behaviour as attacking the other members to keep them away from thier persieved mate ...discourage this at all costs, makes for a troubled fid...
Good Luck and keep your little one socialised with you both...

[Siobhan]

They are funny little things ....My sunny changes his love every now and then but still accepts all of the family (he just decideds to LOVE one as his favorite for a while..lol..). Yep I would just get Hubby giving him treats and spending a bit more time with him , its important they accept all of the family (as flock members) even if they love one more as long as they accept the other and don`t bond so close to one that they view them as a mate the trick is to all be Flock members not a mate , this can cause frustration and bad behaviour as attacking the other members to keep them away from thier persieved mate ...discourage this at all costs, makes for a troubled fid...
Good Luck and keep your little one socialised with you both...

Oh, it's not as bad as that. He doesn't mind Hubby being around me or anything like that. And tonight, after I posted this, he actually did consent to sit on Hubby's shoulder and pluck out a few mustache hairs (he really enjoys that and Hubby has an abundance so he can spare a few) and chuckle and he even cuddled a bit and said "awwww." Maybe he's just moody.

[Majj]

I could tell by your post it was not that bad BUT wanted to let you know to avoid it becoming that way do have all family members and visitors play and handle your fid so they become social little fids not monsters protecting their favorite ..I kknow how bad it is to have a fid protective my Sunny is so violent to ALL people coming into this house he has to be caged he is an attacking machine in guarding HIS FLOCK ...us and HIS home ..(we all live in his big cage..lol..) Buddy isn`t friendly to visitors but he will sit on us (his human flock members) and can be out without becoming a attacking machine, he would bit if anyone other than family went to touch him ...Its sad for Sunny as he hates being locked away but thats how he is so thats what happens , if only he would realise the visitors are frieds and mean us know harm..lol.. silly boy..

[Siobhan]

The family consists of me and Hubby and two dogs, besides Clyde, and Clyde is not terribly fond of the Lab, Gigi, though he doesn't mind George the basset, who is of course far more mild-mannered and mellow. Our parents are older and don't come over very often, but Clyde was fine with my mom. He did not like my in-laws a bit. For the first whole month we had him, we were remodeling and there was noise and confusion and people going in and out who were helping my husband do the work, and he was okay with that, too. He just has these MOODS. And he seems to feel once he has claimed my shoulder (my husband even calls me Clyde's Shoulder) and is comfortable, he doesn't want to move to anyone else's shoulder, thank you very much. It's like he's saying, "What are you doing? I already have a shoulder, why should I want a different one?"

[melinapayne]

Just do what he did... Backwards. if he trusts YOU, then YOU put Clyde on hubby's shoulder. Or hand cuz of beard biting or w/e

[Siobhan]

Actually, the last few nights when I get Clyde out to play, instead of multi-tasking and also checking e-mail and stuff, which puts me in a different room from my husband, I've been sitting on the couch and since Clyde likes to walk down my arm and back, I stretch out my arm and rest it on Hubby's shoulder, while Hubby does likewise. As often as not, Clyde will step onto his arm and stroll up it to nibble on his ear and toss his hair around and squeal, then he comes back to me, and back to Hubby. He's much meaner to Hubby -- he nips his cheek while he leans on mine and makes kissy noises -- but at least he is sitting on his shoulder and talking and chuckling to him. I have high hopes that eventually it'll even out.