I hope this is okay, as I noticed a few other threads about human family members passing. I have been home alone all day and it keeps turning over and over in my mind so maybe if I talk to all of you I can let it go and feel a little peace.

Today is the anniversary of my mother's passing. She was a young 67 when we lost her unexpectedly. She had a massive heart attack on Friday night, held on until we arrived Saturday evening, said her goodbyes and went into a coma. On Sunday afternoon at 3 pm my brother, sister and I had to make the decision to turn off the machine. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life and it haunts me every year on the anniversary. So in honor of my mom:

Arlyn Noella Dunlovey Wopat Loomis
December 30, 1933 - October 14, 2001

In My Heart and Memories For Eternity
I Miss You Mom

Oh Von, I am so glad you shared this with us. I lost my mom this June and I can imagine how much you still miss yours. I think it's good to share your feelings with the forum. We do have a tendency to feel as if we "know" each other after all. And we certainly wouldn't want you feeling alone and unhappy when you can turn to us for a friendly ear.You wrote a lovely tribute to your mom and I just know she is smiling at you today. I wish you peace and joy in your heart through the memories you hold so dear.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mother. Don't blame yourself for doing the right thing for your Mom. She knew that you loved her very much!!

I hope you feel better and if you need to talk I'm a pm away. Because I know what your going through. I just had a anniversary of my brothers death and his birthday was Sept 29 so it was hard.

You know I don't think it gets any easier. I just think we learn to live with the death of our love ones because we have to not because we want to. But it's not easy missing them all the time~!

I wish you comfort today. These things are never easy. I'm thinking of you!

Teresa I am so sorry, I hope this didn't upset you with your recent loss. It's just I do pretty good except on the anniversary and her birthday. I know we did what she wanted as she had told us many times what she wanted done, but it didn't make it any easier. I do feel better just putting my feelings in writing, it helped to get the tears started that I had been holding back all day.

Thank you

I am sorry that today marks such an anniversary for you. Words seem to fail to convey the care and prayers that are offered up for you and yours. Mark the day, claim it as a day of honoring your mother. Remember her teachings, her laugh and know that her love remains within your heart. God Bless You.

Peter

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sometimes you need to just let it out, and I'm thankful that you feel comfortable enough to let us be your outlet.

Don't let what you had to do haunt you. I am sure your mom would not have wanted to live on a machine. I have talked with my mom and she says there is no way she would ever want to live on a machine. You did the right thing, unfortunately for you it was a very hard thing to do. Just dwell on all the good and fun times you all had together. My brother passed in 1992 and it still gets to me at times then I remember some of the fun times we had together and I feel better. I hope you feel better.

Sending hugs to comfort you on this sad anniversary...

Big hugs to you always. I'm glad you came to us and let us "in" so we could be of some support.

Thank you all so much! It did help just to put it into words and express myself and your wonderful reponses helped so much. I had been pushing it to the back of my mind all day and when I finally let it out and the tears fall I felt so much better. What a wonderful group this is, so ready to let others lean thank you.

Yvonne, always come and tell us! We have big shoulders and besides, if we can't do anything else we'll sit down and cry with you. It always helps ease the pain when you share your feeling with someone and there are a bunch of someone's here for you.

I pray God will swiftly ease your pain!

Weeza

Oh Yvonne, I can't even imagine how difficult it must be to lose a parent. Know that my thoughts are with you.

Yvonne, I'm so sorry that this is such a sad time for you. I am glad that you came here to share your sadness so that we can all give you a big HUG

Yvonne, I am sorry for your loss. Tears came to my eyes as you expressed your loss. The loss of a family member is so great. The fact that this anniversary still hurts so much, just tells me that you must have had a very special relationship with your mother. What a gift from God. In my line of work I see so many broken relationships, so it is so heartening to here of good ones. Thank you for sharing.
Paulette

Yvonne, I lost my mom Feb 05 and it is soooooooooooo hard when that day comes around. I don't think a day goes by that I don't think of Mom and want to tell her something, so I totally understand your loss.

Nov 1 will be 3 yrs since my 51 yr old sister in law just didn't wake up one morning! No one got a chance to say goodbye!

Then 3 months later, Feb 13 will be 3 yrs since my brother in law went into the hospital with a cold and developed a massive infection for some reason and just....died. My ex and I were at his side when he passed.

Then 10 days later my Mom died at home from cancer. Not a good time of year for me and my family.

But we remember the good times and when we need to cry, we do! I don't know how many times ppl have walked into my office and found me with tears on my cheeks as the feelings sweep over me

Don't ever feel bad about coming to us on the forum when you are hurting. Most of us have been wherever you are at one time or other in our lives so you can find big shoulders to cry on. We all understand.

((((Hugz))))

I am so sorry. I lost my grandparents 7 months apart. They have both been gone a year. It is hard There is not a day that goes by that I dont think about them or want to call them and tell them something that the kids did. Hang in there it doesnt get better but it does get a little easier,not much though.Do not hesitate to talk to any of us. It helps to let it all out.

~HUGS~ I am sorry today is a difficult one for you. I don't know the magic words that will bring you peace, though I do hope you find comfort in knowing you are cared for.

I feel for you! I am dealing with a current loss, my uncle passed away last week on tuesday, he will be missed.