Hello I got my Quaker from my aunt yesterday and he is just under 3 years old.
First thing I did was take him to my room and took a couple of hours to get to know him. after that I started walking around the house with him. anyways I noticed that if my sister/step-brother/mom/step-dad come near him he will sorta lunge at them and make weird grumbling noises.He also attemted to preen my hair thoroughly when I allowed him to get up on my shoulder. Then when it was time to put salty to bed he would not go in his cage without me putting him in there and having my head in the door whenever I took it out he started squawking.......

Is there a chance he might be over bonded to me already

I wouldn't say that it is overbonding, it sounds like he is protecting you from the others that he feels are getting too close....Birdie needs to be socialized some, meaning when someone comes in and if they start making over birdie, see if you can hand him off to them to hold for a little...
When we get company and Harley sees them, he will start laughing until they get in the door good and by we socializing him when he was young, all I have to do is pick him up and he will go to anybody although he knows who he loves the most....he shares his love I would say....

And another thing,l notice you have only have your birdie just a day or two and one great advice I would give anyone is to be careful how much one on one time you give birdie now...Say if you smother him now with love and kisses and all of that snuggling and then later you find you don't have the time to give him that much,l it will make him fussy; so be careful in that aspect....I would sometimes just sit by his cage and talk to him or sing to him, just to let him know he isn't forgotten....

And congratulations on being a parent of a wonderful birdie....Keep us updated and if you have anymore questions, just bring them on..... Someone will gladly try to help....

Oh ! and it looks like you are new so I Welcome you to the board.....

well thank you I wasnt to sure because I have heard of similar incidences where it was over bonding but it seemed WAY to early to me which is why I asked....
I will try and get salty to socialize a little more but he really seems to hate my sister and step brother....
oh thank you for the warm welcome !_!

If the other members of your family want to be a part of his life they will need to work hard in the beginning to gain his trust too. There are some people that they just choose not to like and others that they love instantly...

There is a technique called the 'rescue technique' that could work in the future but right now since he is so new I'd go slow and just get him used to his surroundings and all the new people before forcing a lot on him. Just try to make sure everyone in your family works with him (they have to be willing to get bitten) it's always a good idea to have at least two people that are able to care for him incase you aren't home, someone else will be able to let him out of his cage, feed him etc. I know with Casey she will lunge if someone new is trying to hold her and will bite them once, but if they don't react (no pulling back, sceaming, saying 'ow!' etc.) then she is fine as she realizes she can't boss them around but then there are some people she just loves and will try her hardest to get their attention!

Remember, only spend as much time with him now as you'll be able to do for the next 20-30 years... if you spoil him now and give him too much attention, he'll expect it for the rest of his life and that can lead to major behaviour problems.

Good luck! ... and congrats!