OMG!!! I hope I'm not late on the replay but I am so glad this post is here.... I have kind of the same problem.
My QP is 2 years old..very quiet, doesn't talk, doesn't play with toys..but VERY tame...he doesnt bite BUT he doesnt like to cuddle either.
I've got a Timneh, Tango, he came home 3 weeks ago. I Tried VERY HARD to keep the routine, have Wubbie first in everything!!! so he doesnt feel jeolous...but nothing.....
he stands in the very back of the cage and he gives me the back!!!! if I try to pet him he moves away!!! AND now he goes through 10-15 minutes of yelling and scritching!!!!
I give him lots of attention..to the point my poor baby TAG is looking like...hey when is my turn!!!
Andie's Mom wrote something that alarmed me!!! when a bird gives you his/her back is cause he doesnt respect you...

I have never thought it that way....
and that is bad!!!! I thought Wubbie knew exactly who is the "boss".....I NEED HELP!!! re establishing the respect again!!!
Any suggestions.....pleaseee...
Thanks
Sandra