I am a newby and unsure if this will even work!!
I know my husband joined this site last week after our gorgeous little boy, Inka, sadly passed away. Devastated does not even discribe how I am feeling especially after putting my life on hold for 3 weeks whilst I nursed my deteriorating little chap. What makes it worse is being a nurse I knew he was going down hill and the vet never listened to me, until 4 days before he passed, and I just cannot seem to find peace within because I blame myself for not making him listen!!

We will never forget our funny, loving and amazing little man he will remain in our hearts always. Our home is so quiet now and just isn't the same without him!! I want to thank my wonderful husband Deon for all his support during the last 10 days, I do not know how I would have coped without him!!

Sleep peacefully Inka, we love you xx

I'm so very sorry! They grab onto such a large piece of our hearts. My heart is breaking for you.

((((Wing Hugs))))

So sorry to read about your Inka ... it is so difficult when we lose our little loved ones .. I hope your heart heals soon.

I'm so sorry for you loss. Big hugs to you and your husband during this difficult time.

And welcome to the forum...

I am sorry for your loss ..

I'm so sorry about Inka...I wish there was something I could say to make this easier. (((hugs))) to you and your husband.

Knowing exactly how badly you are hurting makes me feel so bad and makes me hurt for you. We can feel compassion so deeply for you because we have all been there.

Everyone is different, but I am the type who goes out fairly soon and fills the hole in my heart quickly by getting a new bird because it forces me to smile again. A new bird never replaces one that we loved before, but it gives us a chance to share our love again with a different bird. Then the memories we have of the one that is gone give us something to tell the new baby about.
"Now if you can fill _ _ _ _ _'_ shoes, you are a good bird and if you can't, .....
oh well, you are a good bird!"

When you are ready, a new baby WILL make you smile again.
Until then, best wishes and be blessed.

My heart goes out to you and your husband. Inka is flying free. Sending BIG HUGS to you both at this time.

Sorry to hear about Inka's passing, but rest assured here we all understand what you and your husband are going thru, shall keep you both in my thoughts.

So sorry for your loss.

[/font]My heart breaks for you and your family. I lost one in January, and I was sooooo heartbroken, and it was my fault.

You and your husband have all my warm thoughts and hugs.

I give you this one thought to keep
I am with you still - I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you waken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight,
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not think of me as gone--
I am with you still--in each new dawn.
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Twiglet, this is lovely!
Inka's Mom, I'm so sorry for your loss. A lot of us here know how it feels to nurse them and lose them anyway. You are in my thoughts and heart and you have my deepest sympathies. I hope you can find some peace and healing for your heart. If our pain is equal in any way to our love, then it sounds like you love Inka very much.

Thank you to everyone who replied to my message, it truly was quite shocking to see so many comforting words from people many thousands of miles away.
I know with time our hearts will heal, it just does not seem like it now!!

Thank you everyone
With love

Add my hugs to your list.
You and Deon are in our thoughts and hearts.

Tricia

This is an awesome board...the people here really do care and will be there for you in good times and bad. We all know how badly it hurts to lose a fid because they are truly one of the family for us all.



Twiglet that is such a sweet eulogy/ poem. It made tears come to my eyes. Did you write it?

Hugs you are in my thoughts and prayers.

It is actually a poem by Mary Elizabeth Frye

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.


It is my favorite poem. I have lost quite a few pets, including several of my horses (from old age and 1 from an accident 1 from colic), and I always go to my favorite poem to remind me that they really aren't gone. Even even though this brings tears in my eyes, it comforts me. Remember they are always with us in our memories.


Here is a website with it written a little differently with a beautiful background.

http://www.sapphyr.net/largegems/donotweep.htm

Nancy

Aww that is so sad. So short his life then gone! But you will
hopefully find another fid to give you Joy. He was Blessed
by having you!

This is for you too...

I'm Still Here

I was near you, by your bed last night; I came to have a peek.
I could see that you were crying, you found it hard to sleep.

I chattered to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
"It's me, I haven't left you. I'm well. I'm fine. I'm here."

I was close to you at breakfast. I watched you pour the tea.
You were thinking of the many times your hands reached out to me.

I was with you at my grave today. You tend it with such care.
I want to reassure you, that I am not lying there.

I flew with you back towards the house. As you fumbled for your key,
I gently touched you with a feather, I smiled and said, "It's me."

You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know that I was perching there.

It's possible for me to be so near you everyday
To say to you with certainty, "I never went away."

You sat there very quietly, and then smiled. I think you knew
In the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.

The day is over - I smile and watch you yawning
And say, "Good night, God bless, I'll see you in the morning."

And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I'll fly across to greet you and we'll enter side by side.

I have many things to show you. There is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out... then come home to be with me.

Author Unknown

That is a beautiful poem

I have tears streaming down my face here -- that is so nice


Kirst, you're in my thoughts

I'm sorry to hear of your sad loss - I relate as I just lost my beloved Quaker of many years a few weeks ago... I've never been one to replace a pet, and do not see it as replacement - but I've been beside myself with grief & our whole family have found that there is a huge gap in our lives without Strewth. I know you feel the same... Life without a Quaker is really awful - and so I made a decision to get myself another baby - arrives in 2 days time.. At first I felt guilt - but I think Strewth realises that he will NEVER be replaced...

My thoughts are with you & your family
Fly be Free our beautiful birdies
Meet you at Rainbow Bridge

Blessings
Axelle