As the years pass by after his untimely death.........I have to say I have my "Happy Memories" of my Son, Jeff forever etched in my Heart. I still miss him with all of my heart. I know I will never understand why he chose to leave this world but I truely have forgiven him. I know he is always looking down on his Mom, Dad & Sister with Love. That was Jeff, always smiling and I am sure while he is looking down from above that he has a "Smile" on his face.
I Love You with all of my heart Jeff! Love, Mom
Full Version: Another Year Missing My Son, Jeff, In Heaven
Sandi,
If I could I would give you big hugs.
Unfortunately, I'm not so I will send them to you instead.
HUGS HUGS HUGS
Tricia
If I could I would give you big hugs.
Unfortunately, I'm not so I will send them to you instead.
HUGS HUGS HUGS
Tricia
((HUGS))) from across the miles Sandi ...I am sure no mother/father would ever get over loosing a child....
Hoping the happy memories will help erase a lot of the sad memories....and I know that day when it comes around will bring back a lot of questions ; why, if/etc.........it's great to hear that you are healing from your loss....
I've lost four immediate family members and each year of each individual's death date, I relive that day and it will always be with us, no matter what....
I've lost four immediate family members and each year of each individual's death date, I relive that day and it will always be with us, no matter what....
I'm so sorry you are hurting. It never goes away, it just gets easier ... we miss them forever! Hugs to you Janet.
(((((((sandi))))))
Sandi, here is a scripture that I turn to in times of greiving over loved ones. Even though you don't understand the 'why' now, God does and I'm convinced in situations like these He is loving and merciful. You will know 'why' someday when you are reunited with Jeff.
But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him. For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive [and] remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep. For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God and the dead in Christ shall rise first Then we which are alive [and] remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air and so shall we ever be with the Lord. Wherefore comfort one another with these words.
1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him. For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive [and] remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep. For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God and the dead in Christ shall rise first Then we which are alive [and] remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air and so shall we ever be with the Lord. Wherefore comfort one another with these words.
1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
Thank you for sharing your son with us, Sandi- will be thinking of you today and through the holidays.
Christy
Christy
God bless you Sandi. May He ease your burden of grief with each passing day and fill your heart to the fullest with happy, loving memories. Please know that you have friends here who wish we could help ease your pain. Big hugs coming your way (((((((((((((((((((((((((SANDI)))))))))))))))))))))))))) 
Amen
Amen
Sending <<<<<<<<<HUGS>>>>>>>>>> your way Sandi
Feel free to go to the link in my siggy and light a Candle in Jeff's Memory. Thank You everyone.....
I lit a candle the other day for Jeff, Sandi. I know exactly what you are feeling as I lost my twins when they were born and there is no pain that compares. I send you hugs and much love. God Bless you.
((((Wing Hugs)))) My heart goes out to you, eventually the good memories will out weight the bad and leave us with more joy than sorrow.
My heart goes out to you, eventually the good memories will out weight the bad and leave us with more joy than sorrow.
Sandi as you know I too, have lost someone to sucide. The wondering "why" is the worse. I have also been thinking alot of him. Especially with the end of the year coming so close. Even though it wasn't one of my children it was a close family member. I'm so sorry for you and your family. I wish I could help but I know there is nothing I can do but, send you hugs across the miles. I'll be thinking of you and Jeff. (((((((((HUGS))))))))))
Thank you everyone for all of your BIG HUGS and Prayers. It really does help.......
QUOTE (Rico'sMom @ Dec 14 2008, 07:52 AM) 
Sandi, here is a scripture that I turn to in times of greiving over loved ones. Even though you don't understand the 'why' now, God does and I'm convinced in situations like these He is loving and merciful. You will know 'why' someday when you are reunited with Jeff.
But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him. For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive [and] remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep. For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God and the dead in Christ shall rise first Then we which are alive [and] remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air and so shall we ever be with the Lord. Wherefore comfort one another with these words.
1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him. For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive [and] remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep. For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God and the dead in Christ shall rise first Then we which are alive [and] remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air and so shall we ever be with the Lord. Wherefore comfort one another with these words.
1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
Yes Nancy Blessed Promises! For now we see thru a glass darkly!
Bless you Sandi your Heart must be so full...with Love,
Janet x
Oh Sandi.. Big hugs.. I know this can't ever be an easy time. Hold those good memories close to your heart and it will make each passing year easier *Hugs*
((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))
(((((HUGS)))))
I hope one day you will have healed enough that the day is just a faded memory and his birthday becomes the day you remember and honor every year. It is better to Honor the birth of someone then to continue to mourn the death. Mourning the death is what you need right now and that is fine, mourn until you no longer need to mourn and if you need to mourn you whole life through that is fine. I just pray that you find a way to live your life to the very fullest and that as time goes on you do find there are days you don't mourn.
I am still mourning my Dad's death-he died in 1976. The first time I visited his gravesite was in the early 90's and that was when I finally let go of holding on to him so tight. I have my good days and my bad but since my gravesite visit, I have to say I put a lot of the negative behind and my life began anew. It doesn't mean I don't mourn, It jus means I mourn in a different way now.
Then in the early 80's I lost my Cousin Dickie, my second Dad to suicide. I was totally devestated and I am still searching for the truth behind this as I have heard so many different stories and I haven't been able to find a news clipping on his death. I think I will go looking for answers to day. God bless you for helping me remember I still need answers to this unanswered question.
May god be with you and with your son, holding him tight until you get there with him.
I am still mourning my Dad's death-he died in 1976. The first time I visited his gravesite was in the early 90's and that was when I finally let go of holding on to him so tight. I have my good days and my bad but since my gravesite visit, I have to say I put a lot of the negative behind and my life began anew. It doesn't mean I don't mourn, It jus means I mourn in a different way now.
Then in the early 80's I lost my Cousin Dickie, my second Dad to suicide. I was totally devestated and I am still searching for the truth behind this as I have heard so many different stories and I haven't been able to find a news clipping on his death. I think I will go looking for answers to day. God bless you for helping me remember I still need answers to this unanswered question.
May god be with you and with your son, holding him tight until you get there with him.
Thank you everyone for lighting a candle in Jeff's Memory. Cheryl, I can say that 3 or 4 yrs ago it was still a struggle for me.......unanswered questions.......I still have no answers except I know that whatever Jeff was feeling or going thru, he no longer has to. He is at PEACE now which gives me great comfort. I also cherish the "Happy Times" I don't dwell on Jeff's death, I am just so happy that I was able to enjoy my son for 25 years. That gives me great Happiness!
Ohh Sandi
My heart goes out to you .. I don't think anyone who hasn't experienced such a devastating loss can truly understand the loss of a child.. Thinking about such a loss leaves an emptiness in my chest and I can only imagine what you are going through ...
I hope you know that I think of you often and others who are dealing with the loss of a child...especially at this time of year. My step daughter passed away when she was 12 years old ...and as much as I can feel the pain of her loss I can only imagine how hubby and her mother are feeling.
We aren't suppose to outlive our children ... it just isn't the way it is suppose to be.
I am glad that you have some comfort in knowing Jeff is at peace and happiness in his memories .. until you meet again!
((((((HUGS))))))
My heart goes out to you .. I don't think anyone who hasn't experienced such a devastating loss can truly understand the loss of a child.. Thinking about such a loss leaves an emptiness in my chest and I can only imagine what you are going through ...
I hope you know that I think of you often and others who are dealing with the loss of a child...especially at this time of year. My step daughter passed away when she was 12 years old ...and as much as I can feel the pain of her loss I can only imagine how hubby and her mother are feeling.
We aren't suppose to outlive our children ... it just isn't the way it is suppose to be.
I am glad that you have some comfort in knowing Jeff is at peace and happiness in his memories .. until you meet again!
((((((HUGS))))))
God Bless
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